...but first, I must tell you that when many young women my age or less read about my position on the number of children in a home, they are in complete shock or burst out laughing. Very well, let's see who will have the last laugh!

On the second question: Financial obligations and goals--
Huuhh...i know this is a source of many explosions in the home. But I think there should be a joint family account to which both husband and wife are signatories. It can be tough for some people (esp women...but happens to men too) to declare all their earnings. Whether you agree or not---reaching a working solution in this matter will determine whether there will be harmony in your home or not.

I think the man should be the primary bread winner in the home---but even when the woman earns more than the man (in case of working moms) the man remains Head of the family and should exercise authority over it irrespective of other circumstances. In real life, this may be quite difficult....but not impossible.
In financial transactions inthe home as well as all other family issues--always remember that "Honesty is the best policy"